I woke up today and felt like I wanted to write again. I stopped writing for a long time, because I felt whatever I wrote was dumb or none sense. But now, fuck it - I'm back. I want to share more thoughts with you and maybe they can help someone.
My best friend asked me the other day if I had a goal in life and what it was. I didn't even have to think, I answered "to find inner peace within myself". I am so restless and sometimes I feel like I would never just settle down and be happy. Don't get me wrong, I am gratful for everything in my life and it's nothing I can complain about. But I want more happiness and joy, and I want to be happy about who I am and where I'm at. So I have been doing alot of reading lately about this inner-peace-subject and I picked up a few things that I think works. Here it goes:
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Write down a personal inventory of your personality, characteristics (positive ones and ones you want to work on), actions, and appearance. Make a point to accept each and every part of it, even the stuff you aren’t proud of. Forgive yourself for the wrongs you have done if you need to, and focus on what you can do today to better yourself.
Having dreams and aspirations is sometimes what keeps us moving forward in self-acceptance. Set personal goals(big and small) for yourself and move toward them every day.
Re-frame your negative traits into positive ones to promote self-love. For example, perhaps you typically think that you are not tall enough and therefore, do not fully accept your height. You can practice self-love by meaning-making about your height. What meaning or purpose might your height have? Does it help you do certain activities that a taller person might not be able to do? How does your height benefit you? This one I have actually done my whole life and it works! I can thank my mom and dad for that!
FOCUS ON WHAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR
One way to practice acceptance of your life is to be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on what you don't have. Write down everything that you love in your life like for example: family, friends, a roof over your head, food in the fridge, an education, the government, laws, and nature. Remember that some people in the world may not have some of these things that we see as basic.
GIVE UP CONTROL OVER THINGS YOU CAN'T CHANGE
As humans, we often want to control others (what they do or how they act). We want our partner to be a better person, our boss to be nicer and blabla. This is likely because we fear the unknown, or what we cannot control. Unfortunately, we cannot always control these outcomes. We cannot control what others think, feel, or do. Focus only on what you can control. Ask yourself, “What can I do in this situation?” If you can’t change it then say fuck it, accept it and let it go.
FOCUS ON RIGHT NOW
Be aware of the current moment, instead of thinking about the future or the past. Thinking of the past may lead to bad mood or regrets, and thinking about the future can increase anxiety and worry. Being completely present is such a beautiful feeling. Appreciate the current moment. Find positives about what is going on around you. For example, if you are at home – look out the window at the blue sky, the birds, the clouds and take it all in. Enjoy the moment and notice small things - life is so beautiful!